Look Who's Talking!
In the movie, "Look Who's Talking" and the subsequent sequels, we see the world from the point of view of a little boy who narrates his life throughout the movie. Although we are watching the movie, the voice of the child is so captivating that his voice becomes louder than our eyes, so to speak, and we begin to see the movie from his perspective. Think about that for a moment. Think about how easy it is for us to take on the perception of someone else even when we are having a shared experience because their voice is louder.
How many times have you made a choice, a decision, based on someone else's thoughts or opinions? How many times have you allowed the opinion of someone who you felt was more dominant than you, cause you to see things from a totally different perspective? How many times has the world seemed brighter and better because you were around certain people and then dark and gloomy when you were around others or even with yourself? The words of other people have a way of influencing us, good or bad, and may cause us to rise or to stumble. What people in your life speak loud? Who gave them the voice? Who increased the volume of their words? Why are their words so powerful or powerless? These are all good questions to ask yourself. Often times the opinions of others ring loudly in our minds and influence our behaviors.
I often talk to my patients at the residential facility about focusing on themselves and not allowing the behaviors of the other patients to impact their recovery. For some, this is easier said than done. For others, it is difficult for them to concentrate on their own recovery because they become distracted by the other patients' lack of focus. The voice of others can truly sway you if you are not focused and determined and don't allow yourself to be easily distracted. Learn to not be so quick to listen to the voice of others and get to a place where you can truly get direction and hear clearly. If you are spiritual, heed to the voice of God. If you are not, listen to that still small voice inside of you. Whatever your avenue, get to a place of peace, which will ultimately bring you clarity. That way, you are always be aware of who's talking.