3 Tips to Developing Emotional Wellness
Updated: Jul 15, 2020
There are so many things going on in the world today that we are becoming over stimulated by all of the things that we are seeing, reading or hearing. The horrible images are staying in our minds and the constant media coverage can become overwhelming. Not only are we living in the midst of a global pandemic and racial injustice, we are also living in the midst of our own anxieties, fears, and depressive episodes. In these uncertain times, we can't control or predict what is to come, but we can control how we respond and how well we manage ourselves. I have developed 3 tips to help you manage your thoughts and emotions and have a sense of wellness and wholeness in the midst of the chaos.
Do a self-inventory. It is important that we have daily check-ins with ourselves so that we know how we are doing mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. One way of doing this is to take moments throughout the day to be still, sit with our thoughts, and assess your body. Check your breathing, determine whether or not you feel anxious, pay attention to your thoughts racing, and evaluate your spiritual connectedness to God. If you feel unsettled in any way, that means that it is time to reset yourself and get back centered again. Began to do some deep breathing, concentrating on your breaths to help calm your body and rid yourself of the racing thoughts, or what I call the Mental Chatter. Allow your body to respond to the rhythm of the breaths and get to a place of rest. Next, begin to pray or meditate. Focus on your mind on God and things that are good. Remind yourself of what you are grateful for and that in that present moment, you are okay and you are safe. Allow your mind to then drift to a place of nothingness and become attuned to how calm and centered you are feeling and stay there for a few minutes or until you feel that reset and are ready to go about your day again.
Give yourself some grace. It is very important that we allow ourselves the grace to be tired, to be vulnerable, to be overwhelmed, to feel defeated, to feel unloved, and anything else that we may feel. We put too much pressure on ourselves to be everything to and for everyone, but we don't give ourselves the grace to fall and not be perfect. We must recognize that we cannot do EVERYTHING. It doesn't make us weak to pass tasks along to other people. It doesn't make us incompetent to admit that we need help. It also doesn't make us selfish to say that we need a break. A major part of maintaining emotional wellness is practicing self-care in recognizing that enough is enough and that it is okay to say, "no" or "not today!" Don't be so hard on yourself. In order to be great, you must set boundaries, you must fail and/or make mistakes, and you must rest!
Own your stuff! Now, I saved this one for last because it is difficult for so many people. It is so hard for us to be vulnerable, do some introspection, and acknowledge our stuff! We spend so much time trying to pretend that things are not bothering others so that we can appear strong to others, that we start to believe the lie ourselves! Look, if you are truly going to heal and get past everything that is holding you back, you must become vulnerable and own your truth. Your truth may have so many layers that the thought of peeling them back seems daunting, but if you don't do the work then you won't be able to truly move forward and live your life. The road to emotional wellness is not easy, but it is necessary! The stuff that you are holding on to has kept you burdened down long enough. Let's release that weight, loose those chains, and finally become whole!
This journey takes time, persistence, desire, motivation, and assistance. Take the time to pray, meditate, journal, take a hot bath, exercise, and any other forms of self-care that will help you stay consistent and do the hard work. Seeking therapy is always good to help you safely jumpstart this journey so that you have a safe place to process your thoughts and feelings and have an expert to help you when things get too heavy. #MJConsistencyChallenge #MJConsistencyPays